Isn’t it crazy how we keep doing things that we say we don’t want to do? And then even after we say we will not do that one thing again, we still do it?

 

Your conscious mind wants to stop but your unconscious mind is telling you that you NEED to keep looking at porn, masturbating, hooking up with the girl that you said you weren’t going to hook up with anymore, etc.

 

God tells us in Romans 12 that we need to renew our minds. In 1 Corinthians it says that we need to “take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”

 

Easier said than done! But we know from God’s word and now the brain research is telling us that we CAN renew our minds. We can change!  

 

Step 1 of changing our minds is getting honest with ourselves about what we are are believing!  We are going to make lists.

 

Why do you engage in your unwanted sexual behavior? 

There is absolutely no judgment here. You just need to make the list. If you don’t have some embarrassing reasons on your list that you wouldn’t want others to see, then you need to start over! You are lying to yourself!

 

I’ll share some of mine to get you going. You might share some of these.

 

– I deserve this

– I am more sexual than most people

– This would be bad for my body if I didn’t do it

– This is actually better for my marriage

 

Don’t just stop with a few. You might end up with 50 or 100 reasons. It might take some time but it’s worth it to bring all of our unconscious beliefs to mind. You don’t have to do anything with this list right now, but over the course of the next 30 days you can be deciding if they are true or not.

 

Why the 30 Day Challenge?

 

Now I want you to make a list of why you are participating in The 30 Day Challenge. Everyone’s list will be different. Some of you guys have never even looked at porn and some of you are to the point of paying for prostitutes. We all have our reasons to be here. Write them down.  

 

Here’s my example list:

 

– I’m tired of feeling powerless

– I want to learn what’s really going on in my brain and my heart

– I want to have an awesome sex life with my wife

– I want to be the best dad possible for my kids

– I want to be able to think clearly

– I’m afraid of how this ends, if I don’t get control over this

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