Speaker 1:                           00:06                     [inaudible]

Speaker 2:                           00:07                     regardless of the addiction, small groups have proven to be essential for recovery in all areas of life. You reach your full potential with the help. Encouragement in input from others in recovery is no different. The Bible says, let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together as some are in habit of doing, but encouraging one another meeting together, spurring and encouraging one another are essential to grow in Christ, but they’re also essential to grow in your recovery. The difference in an accountability group and a recovery group is an accountability group is content with asking questions and confessing struggles, but in addition to these, a recovery group is geared to challenge its members to commit to specific changes each week. Spurring one another on to make changes is an important part of recovery and so as encouragement, encouragement, and celebrating successes, but also an inspiring one, another to get back up after a stumble.

Speaker 2:                           01:12                     Some recovery groups are more effective than others and the following are the key characteristics of the most effective groups. The first is trust. There must be a commitment to confidentiality that anything is shared in the group. We’ll stay in the group. This commitment leads to the second key honesty. You won’t have an effective group if there isn’t the courage to be honest. Your vulnerability will make a world of difference in the kind of impact that group has for you and others. I recently asked a man in his twenties who’s been walking in freedom for years. What was the single biggest factor in his recovery and he said, living in reality both related to my need for help in my commitment to live honestly with no secrets. A third key is mutual accountability. Each member is responsible for his own growth, but when fellow members are committed to helping each other succeed, it creates an atmosphere that is most conducive for growth and life change.

Speaker 2:                           02:13                     The fourth key is commitment. Preparing for and attending the group each week must be a priority. When we talk about doing the work of recovery, it involves going to the group prepared, participating in discussion, following through on applications as well as a commitment to the regular check ins. When you are committed to the group, it will lift the quality of the group for all involved. Fifthly, your group must be a place of acceptance. Each person is accepted where they are. Joel Hess says, be encouraged by the testimonies of others, but don’t allow a judging thought to take hold. That means not judging another man whose pace is slower than yours. It also means not beating yourself and quitting if your pace is a slower one. We all have different backgrounds, which means each person’s pace of recovery will be different. An impactful recovery group also must have an effective format that consist of check-ins, discussion of content, and an application time.

Speaker 2:                           03:19                     The recovery group consists of a time to check in where each person in the group shares their responses to the faster scale and processes. How the previous week went. After check in, you discuss the freedom fight videos and once your group completes those we have other suggested content in the resource section. Lastly, there is an application time where you share your commitment to change something specific. In the upcoming week we have a document in the resource section that gives a more detailed breakdown of this format besides this group time, there is an evening text where each person is simply text which stage they’re in on the faster scale and then there’s the important check-in phone call where at least three times a week you make a quick call to someone in the group to share how you’re doing. Remember, the opposite of addiction is connection and this group will help you connect regularly.

Speaker 2:                           04:14                     Listen to the following responses from men who have successfully recovered from a porn or sex addiction as they answer questions about recovery groups. What keeps people from getting all they can out of a recovery group? Laziness. Guys not doing the work or really processing their faster scale before they come in to be able to articulate with true understanding what has been going on with them emotionally. Another response, not doing the basics, homework, check-ins, phone calls. Also just doing the homework the night before instead of meditating on the work and allowing God to speak to them is a huge hindrance. What would you say are the keys to an effective recovery group? Honesty. Without honesty, the group won’t be able to share the necessary wounds from their past. That will enable healing another ads. Guys being very committed to the group and working the material. Guys, don’t miss skip and not have their stuff done. If you could give one piece of advice to a new recovery group that is just getting started, what would it be? Give this 110% of your effort. It will pay off. Don’t just do the work, but meditate on what you’re learning and let God speak to you throughout the week. Doing your group prep a little each day is a way better investment than cramming the night before. To summarize these men, your commitment to the group and doing the work of recovery will determine the impact that group has on your life.

Speaker 1:                           05:55                     [inaudible].

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