Speaker 1:                           00:06                     [inaudible].

Speaker 2:                           00:07                     When you laugh with friends, reach a goal or eat your favorite dessert. You experience pleasure because your brain releases a chemical called dopamine. This pleasure chemicals released when you experience enjoyable activities that your brain wants you to remember and repeat. Dopamine levels are artificially raised in the brain by drugs like cocaine. To give an a natural high porn use also artificially raises the level of dopamine in the brain to a natural levels. This is why for many, the more porn they use, the more they need to get the same high and why porn often doesn’t satisfy as much as it did in the beginning. Porn has changed your brain to respond to abnormally high levels of dopamine, which means you need more dopamine to feel good. This is why many porn users report feeling depressed, unmotivated, and antisocial. The everyday pleasures of life aren’t as enjoyable as it used to be.

Speaker 2:                           01:03                     Sex addiction is both a sin to turn from as well as a chemical condition to be treated. The first step in treatment is detoxing by stopping the unwanted sexual behavior. Many sex addiction therapist suggest making a goal of going 90 days without sexually acting out. That may seem like an impossible task, but it can be done to get to the 90 days. You must take it one day at a time and celebrate your progress. The first priority in any addiction recovery is to stop the behavior. Just as alcoholics need to stop drinking before they can be treated, the sex addict needs to stop acting out to begin the healing process. When you stop the unwanted behavior, your brain begins to heal as chemical levels return to normal. The key to stopping unwanted sexual behavior is getting strong accountability from multiple people. As we discussed in our last lesson, going into alone won’t last long.

Speaker 2:                           02:00                     If someone promised you $1 million, if you went 90 days without porn or masturbation, you would get radical and committed to make it happen. This is the mindset that you must have about detoxing. What you will gain by walking and freedom is worth more than a million dollars. A sex addiction can destroy those things that are dearest to you, including your sex life and your future marriage. And family. Jesus taught us to get radical in our approach to dealing with the sin of lust after warning us not to lust after women. Jesus says, if you’re a ride, I causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away for it is better for you to lose one of the members of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell, and if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away.

Speaker 2:                           02:47                     Jesus’ point is that we must get radical in dealing with lust. I want to highlight seven essential steps for a successful detox. Number one, lock up your computer and smartphone. You will need an accountability partner to help you do this in the response section. After this video, we have instructions for effectively locking these up. Eliminate all pornography access. Pornography is the display in any medium of nudity or sexual activity that excites sexual feelings. You need to eliminate anything that triggers sexual feelings and lust. It could be even a TV show or movie that depicts sexual activity. Give your accountability partner specific questions to ask you. You know yourself and your temptations. Bess. So specify questions that your accountability partner needs to ask you each week. Fourthly, avoid certain people in situations that may trigger you. You may need to delete certain numbers from your phone if you struggle with masturbation in the shower, leave the bathroom door open.

Speaker 2:                           03:49                     If you’re attempted when you go to bed, sleep on a couch in the living room or at a friend’s house for a couple of weeks. That may sound crazy, but how radical would you get if $1 million was on the line? Bounce your eyes instead of indulging your eyes. Learn to look away immediately when you see something or someone that may tempt you to lust, not triggering lust with your eyes will help keep cravings in check. Pray as Jesus taught us. Lead me not into temptation. The best way to resist temptation is not to put yourself in a position to face it, so pray toward that end. If you relapse, confessed to your accountability partners. Learn from the fall and shut down all access points. Get back on the track to detox and don’t use a relapse as an excuse to binge Mark laser suggests starting over on the 90 days if you binge, but to keep going on the 90 day count, if it’s a minor relapse, a slip instead of a binge focus on one day at a time and celebrate your progress.

Speaker 2:                           04:56                     Make sure to record your progress through the daily check-ins on the fight club calendar. During the first few weeks of detox, you may get depressed because you’re used to the high from the chemicals. During this time, your limbic system will be crying out for relief through sexual outlets because that’s how it’s been trained for so long. Life will become more exciting in the long run, but in the short term, you may experience some of the classic symptoms of detox and withdrawal, boredom, lack of interest and motivation, and for some even hopelessness and suicidal thoughts. The length of time for the brain to normalize is typically two to three weeks, but could be longer. If you experienced severe detox symptoms for much longer than three weeks, you may need to see a sex addiction therapist or medical doctor during detox. You will be hit with strong urges to act out. So we want to equip you with a tool to defeat temptation. When it comes, we want to pack this tool over the next couple of videos.

Speaker 1:                           06:01                     [inaudible].

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