Speaker 1:                           00:07                     Through the years you’ve developed a certain taste in foods, some you like, some you don’t like, and we all have our favorites. Our tastes vary from person to person, but they are developed through activation of the reward circuitry in your brain. Your brain helps you remember what foods cause the biggest pleasure response and through that process you developed certain tastes through sexual experiences. You’ve developed certain sexual tastes as well. An individual’s arousal template is unique to the person and reflects what excites them sexually through repeated pornography exposure. You train yourself to be sexually excited by certain things. Most users don’t realize that their sexual preferences have been shaped through their porn use and many times it negatively impacts their sex lives. Porins rewiring of the brain is a major reason that a growing number of teenagers struggle with porn induced erectile dysfunction. They have trained their minds to be sexually excited by pornography so that a real woman doesn’t excite them.

Speaker 1:                           01:07                     Like before. A recent Canadian sexologist study found that 53 and a half percent of male teens were classified as reporting symptoms, indicative of sexual problems, erectile dysfunction, and low desire. Where the most common one teen reported. I never had a problem getting hard to porn, but when it came to the real thing, I started taking Cialis. Over time I took more and even then there were times when it only partly worked yet I could still get hard to porn. The encouraging thing is that these men can regain their mojo for a real woman after they’ve avoided porn and masturbation for an extended period of time. In the classic psychology experiment on conditioning, Pavlov feeds his dog regularly while also ringing a bell. During the feeding, Susan Pavlov noticed that his dog salivated when either just he walked into the room or the bell was wrong, even though the dog didn’t receive food, certain objects arouse the dog salivary glands because those objects were closely associated with the food.

Speaker 1:                           02:08                     The arousal template of the dog included the bell and Pavlov. This kind of conditioning can happen to habitual porn users and they can develop an arousal template that reflects this conditioning. There are certain things that your brain has associated with sexual pleasure. Your arousal template is made up of the specific things that arouse you sexually. Certain kinds of look, certain body part or type of person. Some porn addicts have found that a computer starting up can arouse them sexually because like Pavlov’s dog, their brain knows something good is about to happen, so wants to get ready. It’s not that the man is aroused by the computer as much as he has been conditioned to respond to it because it is so closely associated with the pornography. There is a spectrum of results of where you can be in your arousal template. You can have a normally conditioned arousal template, a negatively conditioned arousal template or an arousal template that has been shaped by extreme conditioning.

Speaker 1:                           03:05                     The normally conditioned sexual arousal template reflects your preferences and what you find attractive in real life and is not shaped by a porn habit, but habitual pornography use, even over a relatively short amount of time can lead to a negatively conditioned arousal template. Your template becomes attached to certain images, language sounds and sex acts and most of the time it is subconscious. Watching sex on the screen is very different than having sex and that shapes your sexual appetite around voyeurism instead of real sex. This negative conditioning by your porn habit often leads to disappointment with a normal, healthy sex life. Imminent urologist, dr Harry fish, writes in his book new naked. I can tell how much porn a man watches as soon as he starts talking candidly about any sexual dysfunction. He has a man who masturbates frequently consumed develop erection problems when he’s with his partner, add porn to the mix and he can become unable to have sex.

Speaker 1:                           04:06                     A penis that has grown accustomed to a particular kind of sensation leading to rapid ejaculation will not work the same way when it’s aroused differently. Orgasm is delayed or doesn’t happen at all. One porn user shared his experience like this after years of masturbating five or more times a week to pornography. Sex was embarrassing. Not only was there not enough friction, but it felt like the wrong type of stimulation. Six months without porn and I now have no performance issues of any kind. Sex is now 20 times more fulfilling than masturbation. It is not uncommon for a porn user to have to recall or fantasize about pornography while they have intercourse so that they can be sexually excited enough for sex or to climax instead of being present and focused on his wife during lovemaking. A man who’s negatively conditioned often has to fantasize about another woman talk about ruining your sex life, but that is what is happening in so many cases because of porn.

Speaker 1:                           05:03                     It promises sexual fulfillment but gives bondage and disappointment. Instead, the man with a negatively conditioned arousal template brings expectations into his marriage that can be unfair to his wife and leave him discontent with his own sex life. This is one of the main reasons why those who watch porn have an increasingly less satisfying sex life. Many young men are having their arousal template set for them in such a way that will Rob them of the enjoyment of a healthy sex life in marriage. Listen to the effects of pornography on this teenager sex life. When I lost my virginity, it really didn’t feel that good. I was actually bored. I lost the erection. After 10 minutes she wanted more sex, but I was done the next time I tried to have sex with a woman was a disaster. I had an erection at first, but lost it before I ever penetrated.

Speaker 1:                           05:58                     Some men have conditioned themselves on the other end of the spectrum where they climax too quickly or prematurely masturbating in an environment where they were afraid to be caught as resulted in training their bodies to climax as quickly as possible after sexual arousal, they have trained themselves that sex is a self focused quick fix and this makes for terrible lovemaking in marriage. Their focus on getting to release as soon as possible has resulted in many sexually unfulfilled wives because their husbands can’t last long enough to bring them to climax. If you want to enjoy a satisfying sex life and your marriage one day, it is so important to get off a porn now before you’re married so you can reset your brain. Sex is an incredible gift that God has given to be enjoyed in marriage and pornography is a cheap substitute that actually undermines your ability to enjoy sex. Next, we will look at extreme conditioning and its results

Speaker 2:                           07:01                     [inaudible].

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