Speaker 1:                           00:00                     Do you guys have an amazing life changing conference and I want to help you get people there. And today’s a lesson. I got a little quick tip for you guys. I think you guys could start implementing right now. And it is, ask people that you know, will say no. So that sounds a little crazy. Like why would I ask someone that I know is going to say no? Well, so you can show Christ’s love. So here’s what I would do. I’d be sitting in the cafeteria, a guy or a girl would walk by and I would ask him, uh, maybe it’s someone that I knew and I would tell them about, uh, our conference and knowing that this person is not going to go, I don’t have the relationship equity with this person yet. Um, for them to go like, there’s no way they’re going to say yes.

Speaker 1:                           00:52                     Um, but I would ask him not to say, and I’d tell him I’d really want them to go and they’d give me some, a reason why they couldn’t go. And I would try to respond in the most loving way possible. Uh, I might say, man, that stinks because, uh, you, you’re one of my favorite people that I’ve met this year and I know that, uh, you would have a lot of fun and I would love to spend more time with you. Um, you know, you might say there’s a ton of people going and it’s going to be so much fun and I didn’t want you to miss out. And, uh, and I wanted to get to know you better. Honestly, I haven’t got to, I, I’ve seen you walk around, we’ve talked a couple of times, but you seem like a great person. So if anything changes, let me know.

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Speaker 1:                           01:38                     So people are expecting, uh, it T you know, people don’t really like saying no and they kind of, they’ve let you down and they expect they’re kind of expecting the worst. So when you can respond with Christ’s love that you just want some points what that person. And so, um, now there’s an opportunity for them to come back and maybe as they get to know one of your student leaders better. Uh, I mean, this happens so many times. I’d kind of know someone, but then that person would have a person that lived on their floor, in their fraternity that really knew him well. And so when that person started to hang out with them and recruit them to things than they would come, um, or maybe they’re for sure not going to come, but you’ve opened up the door a little bit for, um, then maybe next year.

Speaker 1:                           02:25                     Um, and, and, and you’ve opened up the door really just to share the gospel with them in the future. And then you never know who that person knows. And so they’ve said no, but now they’re going to speak highly of you. And you never know when they’re going to be sitting down at the cafeteria table and you walk by and you say, hi, and what are they going to say when you walk? Keep walking. And if they can say, man, that guy’s really nice. Blake’s, you know, I really like Blake. That is a win and the hall. And I will, and, and I think one way you can get there is by responding to them with love. When you’re, uh, recruit them to your conference and they say, no. And so a second way that this played out is I would be sitting down with a guy telling him about our conference.

Speaker 1:                           03:16                     Maybe it was that day, maybe it was the week before random guy walks by. Not random. It’s a guy kind of know and I’m recruiting him to the conference. And so now this other guy that I am recruiting is to see me recruit this other person. And uh, so, um, kind of recruiting them again and the person says they can’t go, they walk away. And I speak really positively about that person that they walked away saying, man, Chris is such a great guy. Like, I really wish you could go to this conference. I knew it was a long shot, but, uh, man, I, I know that he would love it. I know we’d have a ton of fun and, um, I’m just kinda sad that he can’t go something like, with that attitude. And so now, I mean, the worst thing you can do is talk poorly about that person.

Speaker 1:                           04:00                     Like, of course, that guy wasn’t going to go. He’s a party animal. He’s a crazy guy, a man. I’m not surprised he’s not going no like that. I would not do that at all. But if you swing the other way and talk about how great that person is and how you wish they could go, boom, man, you just scored some points and, um, what that guy that’s sitting across from you. So, um, find some people that, you know, uh, just can’t come for whatever reason and, uh, ask them to come and practice your response. Uh, and then, Oh, actually really help you when you do recruit the people that, uh, you really want to go. So ask people you know, that will say no, then you might get surprised.

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