Speaker 1:                           00:00                     Hey guys, it’s will Stanfield with you on this last Tuesday of this series we’ve been doing with the endurance. Um, as you have heard me talk about the last three weeks, I’m going to talk to you about shame today. Um, and guys, before I get started, I really hope that you’ve taken away some things from, from these videos and maybe these videos have helped you think in new ways or think about new things. Uh, having a new approach to walking with Christ and dealing with your shame. So just to get it kicked off. Shame as you’ve heard the last three weeks, it’s best understood when we differentiate it between guilt. Guilt is, I’ve done something bad. Shame is I am bad. Guilt is that feeling you’ve had after you’ve acted out. Shame is that feeling you have after you felt guilty for so long and now it’s actually turned into an identity.

Speaker 1:                           00:54                     Shame is a belief system that has been developed through guilt and repetitive guilt that actually it causes you to believe things about yourself, about God, and about others and how they see you and accept you and how you relate to God and others that are all fundamentally untrue and rooted on lies. So Shane is, I am bad. It’s a belief system about who you are and shame is a further effect of our sin. Okay. So today I just want to kind of take it back to almost to the beginning, not totally to the very beginning and just a little after the beginning and we’re going to go over some verses where we are actually diving right in to the middle of a conversation between a woman and a snake in a garden. Um, so follow along with me.

Speaker 1:                           01:44                     This is Adam and Eve and Satan. And Satan has actually just been, uh, convincing Eve that God’s word to Eve and Adam May not have actually been totally good. It may not actually have been totally true. Um, and so this is where we’re picking up. The woman was convinced. She saw that the tree was beautiful and its fruit looked delicious and she wanted the wisdom they could give her. So she took some of the fruit and ate it. Then she gave some to her husband who was with her and he ate it too. At that moment, their eyes were opened and they suddenly felt shame at their nakedness, so they sewed fig leaves together to cover themselves. When the cool evening breezes were blowing, the man and his wife heard the Lord God walking about in the garden, so they hid from the Lord God among the trees. Then the Lord God called to the man, where are you? He replied, I heard you walking in the garden. So I hid. I was afraid because I was naked. Who told you that you were naked? The Lord God asked, have you eaten from the tree? Whose fruit I commanded you not to eat? The man replied. It was the woman you gave me who gave me the fruit and I ate it. Then the Lord God asked the woman, what have you done? The serpent deceived me. She replied. That’s why I ate it

Speaker 1:                           03:13                     because I just want you to get a really good picture of what’s happening here. That Adam and Eve have been in perfect union with God and perfect relationship with, with each other in a perfect creation and that there has been no sin, no less, no shame. They are perfectly naked before each other and before God and they are completely unashamed. They’re completely at peace with each other and with God. And I even love here. It is almost as if, uh, when the cool evening breezes were blowing, the man and his wife heard the Lord God walking about in the gardens. So they hid from the Lord God among the trees. The Lord God called to the man, where are you? It’s almost as if that was just routine, that it was time for their walk in the garden when the cool evening breezes were blowing.

Speaker 2:                           04:01                     Yeah.

Speaker 1:                           04:03                     That Adam and Eve got to have such a rich relationship with God that in their total nakedness or total exposure, there was nothing to hide. And they routinely walked with God in the cool breeze of the evening through the garden. And God came along for this walk and he couldn’t find them because they were hidden and he said, where are you? It is important to understand that Satan deceives

Speaker 1:                           04:41                     that this woman Eve acted because she was deceived and that this same serpent, this same devil, the same enemy prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour even now and that he wants to deceive us in our sin. Satan wants us to question whether what God has told us is actually a for our good is actually true, that maybe he was withholding something from the in his commands because he’s not actually all that good. Why? If he was good, why would he not give me these things that could be good? This is the nature of Satan and so when we act out on our sin, in our sexual stand and behavior, I need to make sure to be clear here. There are two things happening there. There’s the spiritual and the scientific and we could go into all these things for a long time. It’s important to understand that when we have been acting out on sexual sin repetitively, repetitively for a long time, that has become an addiction and so there is something biological and scientific about it, but there’s also something spiritual. Satan wants to spiritually bind us in deceit so that we go hide from God and our shame and are no longer connected to God.

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Speaker 1:                           06:17                     I think it’s important here guys, to understand the effect of what happened in their disobedience, that it is not. Here’s the thing. At that moment their eyes were open and they suddenly felt shame at their nakedness. They so least together. Later in verse 10 I heard you walking in the garden, so I hit, I was afraid because I was naked. Adam was not afraid because he disobeyed God. That would have been guilt. He would have felt guilty for what he had done and that’s what he would have been dealing with. But what he was dealing with was something much deeper than just guilt. Adam knew he was not worthy to be seen by God. Isn’t that what our shame does to us? Is that not what we feel so often that we are not worthy to be seen by God. We’re not worthy any longer to go on this routine, evening breeze, walk with God that we have to hide. We have to S so fig leaves for our body parts so that we can cover up and we don’t want to be fully exposed to each other or God because we are so deeply shameful.

Speaker 2:                           07:36                     [inaudible]

Speaker 1:                           07:36                     this is what happens in our shame that we can’t be in perfect relationship with each other anymore. We can’t be in perfect relationship with God. Um, guys, Adam and Eve had perfection in the garden and sin destroyed it and we partake in that sin now. But our hope is that Jesus has restored perfect relationship with God. That though at one time we could not enjoy God in the garden because of our sin, we now can enjoy God at his throne and his throne room. That at one time,

Speaker 2:                           08:24                     yeah,

Speaker 1:                           08:25                     people had to offer sacrifices for their sin or, or even hope that the high priest was righteous enough to sacrifice for their sins on their behalf. But we have a high priest in Christ who wants and for all offered sacrifice for sin that we may forever have perfect union with God. Again,

Speaker 1:                           08:51                     guys in our shame, in our sin, we have to clean to what is true and we have to run out of our shame. Let me ask you this, uh, when, or have you ever had a dream where, uh, either way, whether you are completely naked over you’re just in your underwear, but you have walked into a public place, a school, a grocery store, whatever, not just out your house, but you are in front of your friends, your peers, people who intimidate you, whatever. In this dream and you’re either in your underwear, you’re totally naked cause you just forgot to put your pants on before he left the house and you, you remember, you know, that sense of horror you have in that dream. I think that’s like a little glimpse into the sense of horror that Adam and Eve would have had and realizing what they had done, who they now were realizing who they were, um, that they didn’t sense they were worthy to be with God any longer. Um, Jesus changes that sense of horror. Jesus changes that sense of hiding.

Speaker 1:                           10:15                     Um, guys, there is much to go through even just in that passage alone. Um, if you’ve tuned in, you know that there’s much we can break down, but it is so important for y’all to understand, for us to understand together for us to talk together about how we have been living in our shame and how Jesus can transform us. So in this final video of these, this four part series, this four week series, I just want to sum up with a few questions or a few points actually that we need to get honest about our sin and shame. We saw on the in the early video where Jesus was with a woman and Jesus helped her acknowledge her sin that if we are not getting honest about our sin and shame, we can’t really start anywhere. That is the starting place. We have to be honest with God and we do need to be honest with some other folks in our lives and get them in on the, on getting them into the loop.

Speaker 1:                           11:15                     Jesus wants to be with you in your shame. Guys, this is so important because if you think, if we think that we need to clean ourselves up or get our act right or stop acting out before we can really know Christ, we are gravely mistaken that Jesus wants to be known by us. He wants to make him some himself known to us right now in our shame. He just has. We have to let him in. He wants to be let into that space with us so that he can do his healing work in those places in our lives and then

Speaker 1:                           11:54                     guys, what a glorious life to be lived. One that is freed in Christ and to be free from shame. So we are free to in Christ to live a life free from shame. That if we are forgetting that we have to preach that truth to ourselves over and over, that in Christ we are free and we are, we get to live a life that is free from shame. Um, guys, my email has been on the first slide of each of these videos and if you have any questions or want to talk more in depth about anything that you are experiencing, I would love to hear from you. Please feel free to email me and I’m excited for all the things that you are learning and growing in, um, and this group in your own lives as God is faithful to accomplish his work in your life. Um, thanks for tuning in and we’ll talk to you guys again soon.

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