Speaker 1:                           00:01                     Hey guys, my name is Willis Stanfield and I’m glad to be back with you this Tuesday. Um, we are talking about shame and shame is best understood when it is differentiated between guilt and shame. So guilt is I’ve done something bad. It’s the feeling you have after you’ve done a specific behavior, but shame is actually more of an identity feeling. It’s, it’s something you feel about who you are. Guilt is, I’ve done something bad. Shame is I am bad. Um, and it’s really important to understand how these are different. I want to show you guys some things that I’ve seen in Psalm 32 about what, um, the scriptures, what David might even be saying about the effects of sin on his life and his struggle, his shame, but also the frame work of Jesus Christ on the cross. So we’re looking at Psalm 32 today. Um, when I was in college, I memorized a portion of the song as an effort to, um, know the Bible’s emphasis on the effects of cinema life.

Speaker 1:                           01:04                     And it was these verses when I refuse to confess my sin, my body wasted away. And I groaned all day long. They and night, your hand of discipline was heavy on me. My strength evaporated like water in the summer heat. Finally, I confessed all my sins to you and stop trying to hide my guilt. I said to myself, I will confess my rebellion to the Lord and you forgave me. All my guilt is gone. I think this is emphasizing again, like I said, just the effects that sin has on our life. David is really explicit, explicitly explaining here, um, the how he felt this weight, this heaviness, this weakness because of the guilt that he was feeling about his sin. And, and I think that it’s appropriate to hear some of this language even though it’s talking about guilt, to hear some of this language as it pertains to shame, that shame also takes it even maybe a bit further than just that guilty feeling we have.

Speaker 1:                           02:07                     Guilt can wear off, but Shane sticks with us. Shame is witness. A week later after we’ve acted out. And I remember feeling these things in my own sin and shame when I was in college. And still to this day I can feel this weight, but I believe that God has done more of a freeing work in my life. And um, what we miss, at least what I missed when I was memorizing this, this passage was the first two verses. And there was a situation in my own life where my own sin that was hidden and secret, uh, reared its head and I had to fess up to it and it had its consequences. And I spent about a week, uh, reading the scriptures and just dealing with my own soul. And I read through this song and the first two verses actually really impacted me and they say, Oh, what joy for those whose disobedience is forgiven, whose sin is put out of sight?

Speaker 1:                           03:04                     Yes. What joy for those whose record the Lord has cleared of guilt, whose lives are lived in complete honesty. One thing that really is fascinating to me is that the language in these two verses is actually covenant language. What that means is, and another version it may say bless it, is the man whose disobedience is forgiven. Blessing is the man you know whose record the Lord has cleared. And that language is indicative of God’s promises to his people, to those who belong to him through the, through Jesus Christ. And yet David here is explaining very explicitly how sin and guilt and shame have an effect not just on our conscience but on our body as well. But he starts with these verses which kind of communicate to me that David is in a place of freedom from shame and is rejoicing and is just kind of reflecting back on what it was like when he was not free from his sin.

Speaker 1:                           04:04                     Guilt and shame. We see here that, um, so w joy, so it blessing is blessed is the man. Blessed is the man who has joy. The blessing man can have joy. And so for those who belong to God through Jesus Christ, they have joy. So for those who have joy, it is them whose disobedience is forgiven, who sent us put out of sight. For those who are blessed, for those who have joy, it is them whose record is cleared of guilt by the Lord whose lives are lived in complete honesty. This is an amazing promise for us today that as we, uh, struggle to get free and struggle against our own flesh and our own sin, and we carry the shame about with us that affects our bones. We can know that if we belong to Jesus Christ, we have joy.

Speaker 1:                           05:07                     This is hope. This is good news. I needed to know these verses in that week when I was spending some time reflecting on my soul, and I didn’t realize how important it was to have these verses as a part of the entire song. Um, and so it actually reading through the song the last few days caused me to think of a paragraph out of a book that’s been very instrumental in my own growth and development in the last four years. It’s a book called surfing for God spot, and it’s by Michael John Cusick. And uh, the next couple slides are just some quotes from a paragraph in chapter eight. It says in conversation after conversation, men tell me that the reason they struggle with lust and porn is because heart is desperately wicked referring to Jeremiah 17 nine. And that’s used in the King James version language. But for the man who is trusted Christ, this is a paralyzing mistake.

Men want to stop looking at porn, or overcoming porn or masturbation, because they know that looking at porn and mastrubating  can be a bad habit. They things like joining the no fap movement (nofap), covenant eyes, xxx church (xxxchurch), the freedom fight, pure desire, 7 pillars,  the conquer series, the endurance, 30 day challenge, fight the new drug, or a counselor. Sometimes these help guys with purity but sometimes it does not. 

Speaker 1:                           06:10                     God has given him a new heart. His heart is no longer desperately wicked. This is no small theological side issue. What is true if you belong to God, is that you have a good heart and the deepest part of who you are. You have a passion to love God and walk in his ways at this very moment, regardless of whether you looked at porn this morning or masturbated last night, God says this about you and to you pause. This is God’s authoritative word to us. Each of these bullet points has a scripture reference that you should pause now and go and read. God has these things to say. It is breathed out. It is inspired, is canonized, it is eternal, and these are authoritative over who we are. You are pure and clean. You are without stain or blemish. You are the righteousness of God. Christ lives in you.

Speaker 1:                           07:18                     Your heart is alive to God. You are a new man. You have a good and noble heart. Your sin nature is not your true identity. It’s not your deepest nature and it’s not. It’s no longer your controlling, disposition, proclivity or propensity. Sin no longer defines you. Instead, here is the deepest truth about you. Your sinful nature has been put off or stripped away and you are dead to your sinful nature. I love how Michael John Cusick breaks down for us in the first part of this, that some I found myself at times still engaging this train of thought that, that my heart is deceitful above all things who can understand it? That’s another way, uh, an indifferent version. Um, and I as a Christian, I’m still thinking that my heart is the same as it once was before I was saved. But if as those who belong to Jesus, we believe that we have been made new, that we are new creations.

Speaker 1:                           08:25                     Second Corinthians five 17 Galatians two 20 that it is no longer I, I have been crucified with Christ and Jesus lives in me and that I’ve been given a heart of flesh in place of my heart of stone. Then my heart is no longer desperately wicked. My heart is a heart made by God made to be alive, made to desire God until walk in his ways that that is now my Christ identity freed and the gospel desire. That is my heart now. I think that Psalms 32 Psalm 32 speaks into this a lot. They work together really well, at least for me to help me understand more of the freedom that I have from my shame that it is no longer my sin that is controlling me, that is defining me. It’s my freedom in Christ. A few other verses that come to mind as we talk through some of these things and that are really helpful for me and I think that they would be helpful for you as well and battling against shame and getting free from shame.

Speaker 1:                           09:45                     One of those is Romans eight one so now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus. In another part of Romans it says, while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. I’ve always kind of internalize that as while I am still sinning, Christ died for me and that in Christ because I belong to Jesus. There is no condemnation that I will not be condemned, that I am not currently condemned because of my sin and my struggle with sin. God’s declaration over us is an innocent verdict in the courtroom because of the finished work of Jesus. Another verse is Hebrews nine 14 just think how much more the blood of Christ will purify our consciences from sinful deeds so that we can worship the living God for by the power of the eternal spirit. Christ offered himself to God as a perfect sacrifice for our sins.

Speaker 1:                           10:51                     Our shame causes us to think that God doesn’t love us, that his word is not true of us, that the work is not yet finished and we are prevented from worshiping God. From last week’s video, we saw in the interaction between Jesus and the woman at the well, that, that Jesus helped her, uh, and knowing that she had worth, he helped her acknowledge her sin. And in doing so, she was able to worship Jesus as Lord of her life. So we’re seeing here that Jesus has sacrificed his bloodshed, has finished work on the cross, purifies our consciences from our sinful deeds so that we can worship the living God and is the spirit that lives in us. And it’s that same spirit in Christ that lives in us and through Christ and him offering himself to God as a perfect sacrifice for our sins. That cleanses our conferences.

Speaker 1:                           11:48                     And this kind of brings us to that last verse in Psalm 32 which says, be glad in the Lord and rejoice you righteous ones and shout for joy all you who are upright and heart. When I was in college, I would’ve read this verse and thought, wow, gosh, that sounds great. I need to make sure I’m righteous. Yes, I want to be glad in the Lord and rejoice. Yes, I want to shout for joy. I have got to make sure I’m upright and heart and this is not the right response. It’s the same kind of language as the first two verses that this is indicative language of those who belong to Jesus and who are righteous and upright through him. And so the way to understand that this last closing verse in this Psalm is that for those who are righteous in Christ, be glad in the Lord and rejoice for those who are upright and heart in Christ, shout for joy that Jesus accomplished the work for me.

Speaker 1:                           12:49                     My shame is not defining me, that I am freed. My conscience is cleanse I. There is no condemnation that I am blessed by God’s promises and I belong to Jesus, that I can rejoice, that there is no deceit in my spirit. I’m living in complete honesty and my record of guilt and sin is wiped clear. I can be glad we can be glad in the Lord and rejoice and we can shout for joy. So just a few questions. Can you say that you are living your life in complete honesty? I’m going to come back to this several more times as as much as I can. I struggled for the longest time to finally get honest with others about my sin. And we see here in this Psalm that David is saying, or right off the bat, that it is important to be honest and that in Christ we can live in complete honesty.

Speaker 1:                           13:50                     Do you believe your disobedience is forgiven and your sin is put out of sight? I know I don’t. Oftentimes I don’t believe that’s true. If I’ve acted out, if I struggled with sin, if my memories are plaguing me and I’m dealing with shame, I oftentimes don’t believe that the work is finished. I believe that maybe my disobedience is not totally forgiven, that maybe my sin is not totally put out of sight and that is distancing me from God and his intimacy and his love for me. And so do you believe that this is true? What effect could this have on your life if you did believe these things to be true? And the last question, have you ever felt or do you now feel the effects of shame on your body and soul? Reflect on what a total cleansing would feel like spiritually and physically.

Speaker 1:                           14:36                     There are some of you who are listening now who may relate to this feeling of shame now that destroys your bones, that makes you grown, that weakens you. It takes your strength away and some are listening and watching. And maybe you’ve felt this in the past. Either way, just reflect on what it felt like to be riddled with shame and reflect on what it could feel like to be totally cleansed in your conscience from your shame, guilt, and sin, and how that would affect you spiritually and physically to free you up to worship God, to love God and to love others. Guys, I’m glad we’re walking through some of these things. I’m excited to share with you more next week. You saw my email on the first slide. Please hit me up if you have any questions about any of these things. Um, and y’all have a good, good week.

If any guy is interested in stopping porn or masturbating they should get some help.  They can look at the no fap movement ( nofap ), covenant eyes, xxx church (xxxchurch), the freedom fight, pure desire, 7 pillars,  the conquer series, and fight the new drug or try to see a counselor. The Endurance would love to help guys. A great start to overcoming porn and masturbation is to take the 30 day challenge.  Go to theendurance.org/30daychallenge to take it. 

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